My WAW story

[JRG]

Well I couldn't stand not asking about the phone #. She admitted that it was just that of a male coworker who was a good friend and who also had a lot of problems and needed to talk. The times of day/night and number of conversations between them would probably make anyone think that this is more than just a "friend". She denied a relationship with him. I told her that I believed her but deep down I do not. I've realized that if I don't believe her then any further thinking about it will only have one outcome for me...I will "prove" in my head that she is in a relationship. This will just hurt me more so I'm trying to let it go.

A few days later I initiated R talk. I NEEDED to know her intentions for our marriage. She said that she was "pretty much done". I asked if she had filed yet and she said "no" but she would if I wanted her to. I feel better knowing her intentions even though it may only be her emotions or confusion talking. In my mind if I'm expecting the worst then things can only go up from there.

She also talked about our very different aspirations in life. I'm the type of person that wants to settle down, have a family and enjoy the "traditional" married life. She wants to be free, travel, and not have things to tie her down. I've long accepted that she didn't want to have a family and she knew that.

We also discussed our ongoing communication problem. Neither of us liked to talked about our feelings very much. We agreed that it hurt us very much.

Almost everything of hers is gone from our house. She plans to come next week to get her final things.

I think that I've been a little too nice around her lately...I keep offering to help her with moving her things, I've told her to call if she needs anything, and it seems as if I'm supporting her as a WAW. I'm afraid that I making it too easy for her to have me as her "escape" in case she wants to come back home. Should I stop this enabling?