PH - It sounds like you both were acting out of fear and anger, and look where that got you. So now with a clearer head, maybe you have time to figure out where you want to go next.

Keep up the 180's and maybe find some more to focus on. What were some of the things you feel drove your W away? Are there some things there you can work on? Remember though, these are for you and your next R with or without your W. Don't do them hoping she will notice and then get dejected when she doesn't. Do them for you and you alone.

So what do you really want out of this?

Me51 W53 S17 S14
M22 T25
Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11

It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife