1. the pity party routine, to me sounds like attempting to paint himself a victim so he can be mad and his attacker (ie you and everyone else) to justify why he's a cheater and a neighbor slapper and whatever other problems he won't face. He can point his attention out at all the meanies keeping him down. Glad you're turning away from that routine. I'm going to steal the rsvp line too.
2. you are not no matter what responsible in any way for any person's decision to commit suicide. Especially not with the integrity, grace, and assertiveness with which you're handling yourself with H but even if you weren't. Your fear won't help him, and you know that. Find a place to put it where it doesn't get to you.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
