H has always told me that I am very loyal and faithful this was during our marriage. Now this? I don't think I see him getting past this unless he hasn't cooled off yet.
That's why you leave it the h8ll alone. 'Envision positive outcomes and expect miracles to occur'. Just get on with GAL and keep moving.
If that's a boundary issue for you, you're within your rights to kindly state that you would appreciate him letting you know before he stops by. I did that with my H. It's showing respect for you and if you want to redefine your R with H, you may need to teach him how to show you respect. BUT wait for a few days or better yet, the next time he pops in is when you'd just casually state that you'd sure like it if he'd warn you ahead of time.
Well he wanted a D why does he care who sent me some stupid flowers when he left me and said he wants a D?
Believe nothing they say. It didn't sound to me like he truly wants a D....sounds more like he wants thing to change, regardless of what he is actually saying.
So think thru that...if he doesn't want a D, doesn't it make sense that he'd be pissed about another guy sending you flowers?
And I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but chances are, it wasn't innocent. I'm a pretty nice guy, but even for a close friend of the opposite sex, I wouldn't get her flowers...ever. I might take her to lunch, buy her a coffee or a beer, but flowers? Doubtful.
Originally Posted By: Shiss
I feel I did not do anything wrong and he is just blaming me. I wave the white flag of surrender.
Well, you didn't control the flower deal, but there's a whole bunch of things that you could be working on...positive changes in you.
Originally Posted By: Shiss
No hope at all. He is too angry.
Anger passes. He's hurt, so he's protecting himself with anger. Give him some time and work on your issues.
Thanks Breakdown. Time to focus on me and pray that God will help heal his pain. I wish him no pain. BTW I sent the guy an email thanking him for the flowers but to please stop. He apologized and said he meant no harm and wished me well.
Me 29 H 28 M 9 T 11 No kids 2 dogs H moved in with parents 3/21/13 H wants a D 4/2/13 D Filed 4/5/13 Served 4/17/13
Rebs right- The jealousy may have been good....it appears their may be some passion left
PLEASE REMEMBER- Those things your doing to improve yourself- Make sure he notices them on his own.
What do you do for anxiety (I suffer from GA as well)
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
