some of my habits/ways of doing things that she never spoke up about all these years
Yes, I think this is a big part of it. I think I am almost like having an annoying parent hanging around, and to her all those habits she has seen beyond or even loved about me in the past she can't tolerate any more.
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.