Shiss, would you rather he didn't care?? Think about it!! If he had no reaction at all and acknowledged your flowers and said 'that's really nice' - then you'd be here posting how much his rejection hurt.
He cares and is hurt. The flowers were tactless. Their delivery from a male coworker (I probably would've lied about that one...) at the very least suggests that you're crying on another man's shoulder and he felt enough sympathy to send you flowers. And I don't doubt your intentions and am sure it was innocent! But crying about your marriage to anyone OUTSIDE your marriage is going to be risky (except when it comes to posting anonymously here) .
Just back off and give it space. Don't push, don't make any decisions. Leave it be and let the dust settle. Then you really need to think about how you're living your daily life without H and if your actions are promoting a future with him or working against it.
And maybe you're confused. I got married very young too and for the first 4 months of my separation I thought I didn't want my H anymore. But after this much time I can look back and see that I was reacting to his rejection with my own rejection.
Just live in your own skin, be intentional in your actions and see how things go. It helps me to imagine this person I want to be (okay, I'm a nerd - I think of Melanie in Gone w/ the Wind, she was so self-sacrificing and thought the best of ppl) and try to think if my actions are in line with what that person would do. (Would Melanie accept flowers from someone other than Ashley Wilkes? Sorry, cracking myself up here!!) Think of your best self, then live it!
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