I think I have a pretty good handle on the things I can do better in the relationship and I think I know how to achieve those. It easy, such as being a better listener, being more supportive instead of a fix it man, making more time for just her and I, finally take my wife on the honeymoon of her dreams because we FINALLY have the money for it. Im good at moving the big rocks, not the little ones. Well I am going to get good at it now.
My problem is how do I deal with this situation?? 4 weeks of punishment so far...I fell like I am on the edge of saying enough is enough, lets move on but I am sure nobody will support that, maybe not now anyway. Im in a similar situation as many people on here, She is detatched, she is focusing on her, she isnt prioritizing us, no emotion or love, isnt wearing her ring, we have good conversations and Ive been able to demonstrate that I am working on some of the things listed above. She still talks about us and the kids in the future tense, I am tring to give what I get, staying positive, not letting her see how bad this hurts me, not begging or pleading....Trying my best to give her space so I am not "pushing her for a decision". This is very hard for me to go through, painful to say the least.
My other concern is that while I know I can do better, I dont know that she knows that she can do better. I have told her in the past that our intimacy issues need to be fixed. She can learn to communicate better, she can be a more in tune w/my needs. I have tried to calmly talk about my needs and she clams up. I dont know if its because she doesnt care, it is the way it is and thats it, maybe she doesnt know how, maybe she doesnt want to cause I brought it up????? SO CONFUSING!!!!
How do I go about inducing change in our relationship? Can I do that? Am I expecting to much?
