maybe you should put the points on here to let the vets help you with your discussion...just a thought
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
I am another pregnant DBer. I am 22 weeks along and also a runner. My H had the same reaction, that I did this on purpose. Really?!? Um, no. Good thing that when we went to the Dr, it came out that I was in fact preggo before he told me of his A. My sitch is different in that my H is a serial cheater and is currently sleeping with 2 OW...so I'm done. But, I know all the emotions you are going through. Scared, sad, mad...want to beat him. Her, God for allowing you to get pregnant.
But, no matter what, this baby is a gift. Try to allow some excitment. It's hard.
My first suggestion is to really think about some boundaries. When my H was still living in the home, I had a very calm, frank talk with him about OW. No talking or texting from our home. You are pregnant and need to keep your POM for yourself and your baby. This is so stressful, so try to minimize it as best you can.
I'm here for you, this is so difficult.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
Once H & I do speak I think I may have to be more stern with the texting. He doesn't talk on the phone with her in the presence of me or our daughters, but he does text a little. I've been pretty good at blocking this out.
I've allowed a lot up to this point (I know it's allowing him to cake eat) because I can/could see that this decision has been hard for him. He has struggled if he could actually pick up & leave to another state & leave not only our Ds but me behind.
Our girls are his life & the thought of being at least 8 hours away has made it hard for him to go. He has told me (before pg news) that he can see us together, he's trying to figure out what it is he really wants, he has questions about OW & it working out, he has the same questions in regards to us. Lots of mixed emotions involved. When I ask him to elaborate he won't, so I just give him the space & keep moving forward.
Waiting-I'll think about posting my points. I don't know if I'm ready for that just yet.
M 34 H 35 D 7 D 6 M 10 T 14 Pregnant w/ boy/girl twins-due 12/2013 BD 12/15/12
Going out for dinner with my girlfriends. I'm looking forward to it and anxious as well.
Me keeping my dinner date will hopefully show H that I'm not changing my behaviors because of him and his bad attitude or because of me now being/knowing that I'm pregnant. I think he was taken back a little when I called to remind him I wouldn't be home until after dinner & he needed to take D7 to soccer practice.
I will not let this force me in a shell to hide until I'm ready to open up about it. My friends don't know of my sitch with H--any of it. Right now I plan to keep it that way. I'm not ready to let it out now, especially with the pregnancy.
So, I'm off to GAL and will kiss my daughters & pit them to bed when I get home. Wednesday night is 'TV' night for H and I. I wonder if he will ask to watch our shows?
Another thing that has been on my mind today is that H is still sleeping in our bed. I don't know if I should be viewing this as a positive or negative? A couple of thoughts…OW has expressed that she does not approve of this & he said he didn't realize that she fealt so strong about it & could change that. Also, if he is 100% finished now that I've told him I'm pg & thinks I did it on purpose, why hasn't he moved to the spare bedroom? I don't know I'm so fixated on this but I am?
M 34 H 35 D 7 D 6 M 10 T 14 Pregnant w/ boy/girl twins-due 12/2013 BD 12/15/12
You are going to keep wondering things, but try really hard not to spin about your H's thoughts. He is confused. You have read DB or DR, right? Believe none of what they say and half of what they do.
Keep doing things with your friends. I only now have been telling people about my sitch because I am going to divorce. I only told a few people early on, that I knew would support a R if that happened.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
H sent me a text asking me if I thought about terminating the pregnancy. Thinks it would be best for my scheming pos a**. 1) I can't believe he still thinks I planned this. 2) I don't know what to do? I have not replied to him.
Help.
M 34 H 35 D 7 D 6 M 10 T 14 Pregnant w/ boy/girl twins-due 12/2013 BD 12/15/12
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
I would probably text back a mouthful of choice words... but, that's not the best approach...... Try not to reply.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
