Mileus if MJ's wife is going to stay, she must

a. end the affair
b. make all communication systems available

FULL transparency is a requirement of couples repairing from infidelity. Mileus SHOULD be checking up regularly.

SNOOPING has negative connotations. PROTECTING the MARRIAGE is what's going on, not "snooping."

If his wife is not willing to offer full transparency of communication systems, then she LEAVES.

Keep secrets from your spouse, and you are on the curb.