Im dealing with that issue myself. I am using the "gift of time" to save and save and save. Im scared that bringing this through courts will screw me financially for years (my W is an ATTY).
In your sitch you prob need to ask her to leave. When is the marathon? Its sounds like she has put ALL her focus in that and that is currently her "escape". Asking her to leave may just be the "speedbump" that forces her to re=evaluate her decisions- ESPECIALLY since you have already locked up your kids.
Looking forward to read what happens next- Be good to you!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
