Good for you, Miss Grace! As I said before, just reading your posts tells me you are a very good and kind person.

I think you can always have a "love" spot in your heart for your X. I believe that once we love someone, a part of us always loves a part of them.

However, I reserve unconditional love for my child (and grandchildren) only. Any mate or partner love will have conditions. I would not tolerate infidelity, abuse, addictions, etc. Unconditional love would. That's why it's so rare and nature reserves it to allow the species to survive.

Unconditional love, for someone who is not good for us, violates the natural order.

I'm so happy you are valuing who you are. All of us on here have seen your value for a long time.

M:63
H:53
S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23
M:15
T:16

Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways."
H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12
12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing