WFM inside out states exactly what I am trying to tell you. Your H might be trying to talk to you in HIS LL. Act of service or gift by bringing you a drink. It sounds silly but it is so true. OFTEN we try to speak to our spouse/partner in OUR LL and when the spouse doesn't respond to it (because it isn't his/hers) we get deflated. You need to recognize this and see it as a positive.
Why not try to change the dynamics one day and you get the hot chocolates (2 of them not 1).
I am literally trying to learn to accept my W's LL she speaks in. Which is "Acts of Service" which does NOTHING for me. Zero. But Im trying to get use to it
