DBing, European style

[Papa4Life]

Told W last night that I understand now how serious she is about wanting a D, and that I am no longer going to try to make her change her mind or try to "win her back". She wants to talk to the MC tomorrow, and I agreed to go along, even though I told her earlier this week that I wouldn't.

I saw her upstairs again later and he mentioned something (I forget what) and I made some snarky comment. So I went to her room and just said that this new realization is going to take some getting used to. I told her that I loved her and that I hoped we could stay friends for the sake of the kids. then I left.

Later, she knocked on my door to offer me a tissue because she heard me crying a bit (didn't think she would). She reiterated that she really does want a D and that she never meant to hurt me. Then she started really bawling. I asked her to come sit down, and I rubbed her back a little and just said that everything would work out in the end and she left.

Then this morning W said she would be home by 5 to pick up D9 for hockey. I said, but you have to pick her up by 4:15 so she can get ready. W said she had appointments until 4:00 and couldn't leave any earlier! Great, I'm trying to get her to start sharing the burden with the kids and she can't just once make time to let me have time for myself. She told me, "I'm resonsible for a large group of people and I can't just change my schedule at the drop of a hat like you can." Nice. This no-more-doormat thing is going to be trickier than I thought!