NILWY - There is this "chemistry" b/w us

[Kim65]

Thank you for your comments AnotherStander.... I thought I may have heard from a few other members by now

I'm not really sure how to quote so I will just copy and paste.

(quote)There's a book that gets referred to around here sometimes (sorry but I can't remember the name), I haven't read it but it offers the premise that "easy" relationships that never have arguments are doomed. All I can say is that my M was much like yours, we also rarely argued, we trusted each other, and everything seemed to be going really smoothly right up until BD.(quote/)

We didn't have huge arguments or fights as there was no cause for us to do so, we didn't need to?? As I said we did have disagreements and of course annoyed each other at times and would tell each other that "your shitting me at the moment" and get over it. I don't understand why it's said that couples should "fight" with on another?? We would talk if we felt like there was a problem.


quote)I felt the same way about my W. All these months later I can now see how tremendously codependent I was on her. It was bad for me, and it was bad for her. There's a book called "Codependent No More" that addresses this in detail.(quote/)


H is my love and my best friend but we have always seen each other as our own person. He has always said that he saw me as a strong independent women, that was one of the things that he loved about me and I haven't changed.

(quote)Good. I know he hasn't offered you much for you to do 180's on, but try to think of any complaints he's had in the past and do 180's on those.(quote/)

There has only been a couple of things that I feel may have bothered H that I have stopped. There were a few times H had said "your not my mother".

(quote)He's still in the puppy love stage, it may wear off. Just work on yourself and give him time and space.(quote/)

That's what my heart is hanging on to, I am really trying to be myself and be patient ..... If nothing else I am a patient women and don't give up easily.

(quote)WAS's do strange things.(quote/)

yep they sure do!!... Sometimes I wonder who has the real H??

(quote)That's actually a VERY good thing. Because hate and anger come from a place of pain, and if you mask the pain with hate and anger it takes you much longer to process the pain and recover.(quote/)

Thank you for that, quite a few of my friends just don't understand how or why I would want to be friends with H after what he's done..

Thanks again for your comments, they were much appreciated.