If she left and I buy out the house it will be a big debt. If she just leaves and we defer the house it might make things easier to move on, there will be less interaction.

I told her that it is her decision to go or not and I will not pressure her, she said she already agreed to take a house close by from 1 May. She said it was confusing because at moment I keep changing what I am planning to do. I asked her what she wants and she said certainty, with all the issues sorted out


Me 44
WAS 41
T 11
S 8
D 5
DB November 2012
EA and PA discovered December 2012
WAS moved out 4 May 2013
Share residence of S and D 50/50
WAS moves in with OM 1 September 2013.