Alright this is my first post. My wife left me a week a go Sunday. We have been married for 13 years and have three kids, 10, 12 and 14. We have been struggling financially for the last three years and it just finally took its toll. I was unable to make her feel secure and that I was dependable. The inability to make changes made her feel unloved and alone. Finally 8 weeks ago she said she was done and had nothing left to give. At the same time of course she reconnects with an ex through facebook, and begins an EA. Of course she goes through the whole were just friends, its innocent, quit freaking out, etc.. The first 2-3 weeks was nothing but utter shock to me and really just tried anything and everything to prevent it. But of course with some exciting new attention who wants to mess with a marriage. Anyways I decided to take the path of listening and started to make the changes in our life that she was looking for. To be the husband she wanted and should be. And honestly we got a long pretty good except for I would get pissed about EA. She would text with OM while were out and such, and I couldnt always control my anger. It would always ruin anything going good. She says she loves me and cares about me but she is not in love with me anymore. We have had several talks of course and everyone starts out with her saying Im done, ive had enough, and I never want to be married to anyone ever again. She doesnt want that type of relationship ever again. By the time we get done talking its why should I believe you, its all things you said before, I feel that shes on the edge of wanting to work on something. Than next time I see her it seems like we have taken 10 steps backwards and she has pulled further away. We had a very explosive day and emotional day Sunday. I made the mistake of reading her phone without her knowing and it totally enraged me. I confronted her about OM and confirmed that it had become a PA and just let everything out, all the anger. For the last week I have pushed and pushed her to rexamine everything and we all know where that got me.
So now I am trying 180, but am having a hard time because the three kids have very active schedules so we have to be in constant contact so its been kinds hard going dark..
