Yeah, sorry my writtings messed up. Im obviously a little emotional and very short on time....
Our ex's were cheating on us together, my wife and I did not know eachother. A mutual friend that knew my W told me that I should call my W to find out about the cheating. after talking for a couple of months on the phone, she asks to meet, I agree, she shows up (beautiful) we talk till 3am, she goes home and we kept at it ever since....
Yeah....Everytime I have to explain it I realize how complicated it sounds.
Prior to first D.. I was young, married at 22, she was 20. We were married 2yrs, had a child, she didnt recover... she became very depressed, manic, poor suicide attempts for atention, stayed at the mental hospital... Rough for a young guy and a new baby and a key emplyee at the biz. Found out she was cheating, told her to leave, she left me and the baby, in and out of the hospital, she tried to come home but continued cheating and spending all our money...her parents paid for a lawyer, took her back home, left me with the baby (thank god)and started the big d and it was a nasty one.
I only know this woman because she was the secretary and took care of all our customers, and she did a good job, she was alway cherrful, upbeat, nice and polite. I talked to her often just beause she answers the phone but it was ALWAYS quick chatter and thats it.
I dont know how to get my wife to even start the process of healing.... To me 4 weeks is a long time.... Im being patient, Its a good challenge for me but....frustrating...
