Recently Separated and Need Help

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I've been laying low with the H lately. Letting him contact me if he wants to talk. Last Friday, we had an argument and he stated that he was only going to talk to me about the kids. Today, he's been sending me texts about a variety of things. Not just stuff that revolves around the kids. I feel like this is a positive thing. I'm not taking this as a sign that he's coming home any time soon, but I'm glad that he's starting to talk about stuff other than the kids.

When I was meeting with my IC today, we discussed how I've been controlling in the M. But she also told me that just from meeting with me 3 times, that she feels I'm very demeaning. So she thinks that I need to work on my approach. That I need to think before I speak so that I can decide if what I want to say will come across the right way. Does anyone have any suggestions on a book or books I could read to help me along with this? The reason being is I can't see her again until 5/8. That feels like such a long time for me to keep myself on track without her help.