why are you getting roses from a male coworker? and how did your H know who it was from unless you either told him or had an obvious card attached? I've heard the jealousy route can be effective, but I think it's a dangerous game to play and can cause permanent damage. It's good that you're learning your role in the marriage but have you read Codependent No More? It sounds like you are letting yourself be controlled by your reactions. Your H hurts your feelings or withdraws affection or doesn't call you or LEAVES. You react by telling H you're done when it's not really in your heart, by playing control games with your dogs and perhaps giving the wrong impression to male coworkers? Be careful!
