Mana, Mana! Doo Doo Doo Doo Doo! Part 2

[Tallula]

I agree it's needs to be intentional, not reactionary. But finding out about OW #2(3...4...) isn't reactionary, it eye opening to the actual problem. He is a serial cheater and has no desire to change. Also, every decision you make ultimately effects the kids. They will go through everything you go through. They are seeing the mamma's emotions and feeling them. Thankfully, they are young enough so they aren't learning that daddy's behavior is normal.

Don't be afraid to say "you're done" out loud. Only you know if you are. If you are ok with who he is, then keep at it. If not, and you don't either see him wanting to change or don't want to wait the time it will take for him to change (and who knows how long that would be), then why not announce your intentions. Announce it, then move forward. One problem I battle constently is that I don't always stick with the decisions I make (though I know whole heartedly that I NEED to keep them). In the end, I end up getting hurt or walked on.

Brian

Well, see and then you say what is in my head. I am done. There is no way I will allow myself to continue in a marriage with someone who is doing this. I know I will back that up.

In our conversation today, he was going on and on about how hurtful it was for me to think that he is running around with all these woman. And he can't just accept his responcibiliy, has to throw out that he may never be able to trust me since I looked through his stuff. Ok. Yeah. I wouldn't give a crap if he looked through my stuff, especially if I GAVE him a reason to look. Ok...here I go again. Trying to get crazy to see rational thought. And, even if he was willing to change, I know I will never trust him. That's not fair to either of us. But, he isn't willing, so here we are.

I will discuss this with my IC. Maybe just saying I'm done, but we can talk later about D. Get finances in order now. See how we feel after the baby gets here to really D or just legally separate.

I just feel like it's lying to not state that I won't be staying married to him. Especially since he outright asked.

I titled my thread exactly to make me smile. Muppets, they just make you laugh. And I have to keep laughing and smiling. I won't let this dim my light!!