Wife has been distant today. I'm staying away from her. She continues to be rude, short tempered and irritable around me. With the kids, she's a peach.
I've watched her mother do this with her father. Treats him like sh!t. They are divorced. Looks like she learned the behavior well.
Dr. James Dobson talks about how he feels that the dissolution of a marriage happens gradually over time. It results from the slow devaluing by one spouse of the other. The lack of respect that ensues is the cause of the enmity.
Without no respect, there can be no loving relationship. It seems pretty obvious to me that this is where we are.
P2... sorry, if I steered you in the wrong direction. I am dying for affection and someone/h to tell me I am beautiful again. I would have melted for your affections. Your wife is missing out!.. HER LOSS!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Sorry things are rough right now. My W has done the same stuff. However I have learned with her that tomorrow can be totally different. It messes with my mind but also helps me in knowing that hopefully when she is being b!tchy that it will be short lived.
M 37 W 36 T22 M14 D8 D4 8/2012 distanced BD 11/2012 (likely wants D. Feelings have changed.) W move out date: June 8th.
I LOVE HARD ROCK... put on your dancing shoes and let her catch you dancing in the kitchen while doing the dishes, sing loud....do something different!!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Wife actually apologized for the way she was today. It was nice to hear, but didn't really do anything about the underlying problem. She apologized for being bi!chy. She just told me that everything was irritating her today.
I watched a tv show with her and then left her on her own and went to bed. I still get the feeling she is just waiting for me to leave on my next trip. My plan for tomorrow is to disappear for the day. I've got to find something to apply myself to so I can get my mind off of this stuff. Probably work out and then maybe go to the coast.
She likes to listen to stuff like Lincoln Park. My youngest says is sounds like murder. My wife will play it at high volume levels even though she knows that I don't care for it. I usually don't say anything. I just leave. I think she's realized it's an effective repellant.
Thanks for suffering through my venting. Tomorrow is a new day. Hopefully it will be a little more pleasant.
