Hope I am not being rude by going totally off topic, but I love the title of your thread!
I used to play a kind of "peek-a-boo" with my toddlers to that song, popping my head out from behind a chair (or whatever) with each "mana mana." They would squeal with laughter! So, seeing the title of your thread makes me smile. Hope reading that gives you a grin, too.
On the subject of your actual thread...I guess there isn't a lot I can say, except I'm sorry that this happened to you, and I hope the life you rebuild from here is everything you are hoping for.
Think about it...if you met a potential mate who was nothing but a bundle of needs, would YOU be attracted to them?
