Hoper- I really have no idea if my H realizes that I know who she is. When I confronted him in January, I said I knew there was someone else, but never said who. Now that you mention it, he never asked me who I thought it was. He knows I think he and my ex-friend have an inappropriate R, that I think she was a sh!tty friend to me, but I don't think he realizes I know they are having an A. He truly does not see the obvious, does not see what is right before his eyes.
I hope you are doing well. Keep taking it day by day
UW - thank you for your description of depression. It helps me to have compassion for my H, even though he is hurting me so.
I guess my question is, how do they ever get out of the tar pit of depression? That is something I worry about, worry about him being a tortured soul forever. And I certainly don't want that for him.
I have absolute faith that OW is continually showing her true self, that she can't keep up her charade of a good or nice person long-term. It has probably been difficult for her to make it this far.
Something else that I haven't mentioned is that her H had surgery for cancer around the time I got the bomb. She never told me he had cancer, then tried to act like I was a bad friend. So... Her H gets cancer, and she sleeps with a married co-worker who is also the H of a friend. My H has severe health problems for a decade of our life together, I am the one who has always been there for him and been supportive, yet he thinks she is so great.
I just don't get it.
Something else I wanted to say, not sure if I have said this before...
I'm pretty sure H does some spying on me through the cell phone account.
He asks me strange questions about who I talk to and text. He thinks he is so inconspicuous - NOT!!!
Guess it's all part of the controlling behaviors they show. The way I see it, I have nothing to hide, so he can go ahead and snoop.
Had a great dinner out last night, really enjoyed being with my good friend.
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
