Shiss, keep posting. Responses are sometimes slow but I have found that the comments are usually very insightful.... And the posting is therapeutic (at least it is for me).
Some days having this forum is all that has kept me from exploding - which I recognize wouldn't result in helping me (or the M) to a better place.
In terms of the finance angle it's a sensitive topic and my sitch is reversed...... my WAW covertly established her own checking account for her paycheck and potential inheritance yet continues to use our joint accounts for almost everything (except her cell phone) which is frustrating to me......
When she finally shared w/me that she had done this (and continues to do this) it was hurtful that she hadn't shared. I wouldn't have cared about the separate account if it helped her in some way, but I was not appreciative of "how" she chose to go about it.
I know roles are reversed so sharing to help in maybe understanding how it may feel on the other side if/when you choose to share.....
Thoughts and prayers are with you.
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
