Hi Reb, I can see the joint account online, that's how I know his activity, he doesn't know it because I opened my own separate account at the same bank and since I'm still on the joint, I can see the activity. My checks are separate now in my account.

We are not speaking right now, I did the begging, pleading the first two weeks. Now I'm letting him initiate contact as he initially wanted space, I didn't give it, so he decided he wants a D. Now I've backed off and I will talk if he comes to me. Seeing if he will pursue now that I've distanced myself.

Thanks for responding Reb, it's appreciated smile

Me 29
H 28
M 9
T 11
No kids
2 dogs
H moved in with parents 3/21/13
H wants a D 4/2/13
D Filed 4/5/13
Served 4/17/13