I don't know, I go back and forth between...start it and divorce, and let's let things sink in. Let your emotions level out before fighting over the fridge and the 30 hammers we have. Cause I haven't said "I'm done. We aren't getting back together. But let's wait to actually hammer things out." Which is how I feel. So I feel like I'm stringing him along. He had brought up how hurtful it was to say we aren't in a trust building place. (My eyes still hurt from them rolling to the back of my head on that one) I just said, "We aren't. You are still with OW. So, you aren't trying to build trust with me." But maybe I should have said, "No, and I never will. I'm done." I was thinking maybe the process would be better. I detach emotionally, then a few months down the road I say I'm truly done.
I think I'm scared to say it. I'm scared to say out loud to him, I'm done. I'm scared he will react crazy, get mean. I'm just scared. But...I'm done.
I'll explore this with IC Monday. What do you guys think?
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
