Thanks positive. Unfortunately early on I snooped. It lead to suspicion of an A. I have been keeping a journal for months now. A while ago she read it and read about my suspicion and confessed to an EA. At that point she said it wasn't PA but she ha physical feelings for him because of the emotional. Basically my goal has been to keep letting go and not fight the A. When it came up she was extremely defensive and justifying it because she knows it goes against her own morals. All I feel that can be done is keep being the best man/father/husband I can be. Focusing on my communication and working on my R with S . I have some good therapy coming up and my life is finally beginning to be on track.