Lol Cadet I can always rely on you to put things in perspective :-) thank you for the reminder. :-)

I have been thinking a lot about the recent posts of NG on shame. I don't think H tried to manipulate me etc about OW- I do think it was a reaction out of shame. Not that it absolves of responsibility. Just kind of amazing how for so long we act and react in ways that stem from such a place of pain and grow up to think that it is normal to keep that shame buried and hidden. That the shame is coming from fear. What we are need is more empathy and compassion.

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home