Please don't sign off! We are here to try to give you support in whatever happens. I don't want you to leave sounding so hopeless. It sure wasn't my intent to talk you into giving up. I just wanted you to see the things you were doing were not going to make much difference in her decision.

I think, however, if you will "let her go" and start living like you've let her go, that you will be able to feel completely different about everything....instead of this hopelessness that you're feeling right now. B/c when you let her go, you let go of the rope....and when you really let go of the rope, you change.

But before I continue, I want to know if you're still here with us.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!