I also mistakenly gave my walk away wife the book and boy did she read it. I woke up the next day to find 15 text messages about how it's not just that simple!!! I've given y'all the short an clean version ;-) Man, do I regret that, but live and learn.
I did that too, on purpose. I had only read the first part about marriages having hope and thought it was so inspirational I went back to book store, bought a copy for H and gave to him. It was mentioned on my thread that H is DB better against me than I am... yeah I gave him the tools. haha
Shiss - you are doing so well. You're really ahead of the game with having started db so early.
You have to protect yourself without taking any direct moves opposing H. I wouldn't worry or ask about OW or what he's using money for, but you'll need to ask about future spending and how you can come to an agreement to protect both of you and alleviate money stresses. Do you have your a separate bank account? If you are using a joint account with both your paychecks being deposited there, get your own account right away then you can agree how much you'll both need to live and funnel your money from the joint pot.
Those early months are really rough. It's a distressing ride, but things do calm down and you kind of get to a "new normal" stage. Just keep working on yourself and you'll learn tons.
I had only read the first part about marriages having hope and thought it was so inspirational I went back to book store, bought a copy for H and gave to him. It was mentioned on my thread that H is DB better against me than I am... yeah I gave him the tools. haha 
