Is there light at the end of the tunnel Part 1?

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Hello all.. I need a help in assessing a situation and how to respond to it W’s text message.

A recap of what has been going on with W and I recently.

W asked for me to move into the basement, completely move into the living room, or move out. After days of thinking about it, we discussed it more and I told my I am not planning on moving out or to the basement. The options are I move into a second room (which is currently her computer and clothes), or the master bed room. She said she will not be in the bedroom if I move in, I said I understand that. I also said we can discuss it more after she thinks about it. The other option was for her to move out and that she will take S with her. I told her I am fine with her moving out but I would need to have S 50% of the time.

Fast forward a few days and she has been trying to pick a fight with me but I have been avoiding them and validating her feelings without agreeing to them. Yesterday she texted and said she wanted to talk. Last night we talked and it was her saying that one of us need to move out and I said I can see where she is coming from and that I understand her feelings and how it is a hard thing. I was still firm in me not moving out (since she is the one trying to leave the marriage which I did not say) and that I am firm in splitting S time 50/50. She talked about how I would need to be responsible for all the bills of the house and I agreed to it. She talked about getting an apartment but that the house is 50% her until and I agreed. She talked about instead of paying rent on an apartment, taking money out of our house and buying a condo with both our names on it and I said we would have to figure out the numbers and how the responsibilities of the mortgages would work. We talked about S a lot and how he has changes our lives and how we view things. We also talked about my D. She kept asking me how I have been feeling and that I don’t share my feelings with her. I try to hold back but shared how I know we haven’t been right for each other and how this process has taught me a lot of what is important and I really feel like I am on the direction of being a happy person. I also told her that I need to value myself and love myself and love my kids and that is what my priorities are right now. I also told her that I can see how hard it has been for her and truly feel sorry for where we are in life right now. Also, how I am sad that we lost our friendship in the process.

She said she needs to do this so that she can find herself and to appreciate me as a person. We went our separate ways after a few jokes and I went to sleep. Felt like a million bucks this morning of feeling like I am in a good state of mind and then I get the following text message.

“I really f*ing hate how you have made me feel and I hope you’re having a miserable day like I am.”

“Its not fair that I’ve suffered so much and you get to sit pretty in the house with your new improved self and not feel the pain. Where the f was yourself improvement when I needed you to be there for me?? I hope the empty rooms and the walls mock you every time you walk in the door.”

I have not responded to her text and don’t know how to respond. I really hate how she is feeling and don’t like seeing her feel this way. What do you think I should do? I honestly feel like I am in a good place in my mind and heart. I feel like I have detached enough for this not to really affect me or my feelings but I do feel bad for her discomfort. I don’t want to ignore her hurt feelings because that will come off as I don’t care for her. I don’t want to share how I am feeling at peace because she will feel like I am not there for her AGAIN like before. How do I handle this situation?