Homecoming was ....ok. I guess. A little strained from my side; I felt so bad for what H had gone through that I wanted to comfort but at the same time wanted to retain detachment and distance.
H is not feeling well. Complains of aches all over his body - simply brushing up against a piece of furniture causes him to yell out in pain. IDK what this is all about. Fibromyalgia like symptoms?
Odd story of the day. Remember the deal where I would drive H's car while H drove his bike? Yeah well thats over now. Lol.
H finds a nice toyota on CL, a 2001 w/low mileage, and just at the top of our affordable budget. Only problem? I don't drive a stick.
We go look at it. H is smitten. Gives me the "what do you think?" (WHY H asks this, I will never figure out.) I tell him that it def is a good deal for the car, but that if he purchases it it will be "his" car due to the manual tran. I say that's ok though, because I can just drive H's car. H asks me different versions of this same question at least 3 times and I give him the same answer each time. He asks if I will learn to drive a stick. I tell him that I will, but would still prefer to regularly drive an automatic which at this point means H's car. H appears to think this is ok, we buy the toyota and go home.
Once home, H gives the truck keys to the twins, telling them they have their ride back. I say wait, I need to get my office keys off the truck ring. S16 slides them off and hands them to me, I begin putting them on H's car ring.
"What are you doing?" H asks.
"Putting my office keys on the car ring." I answer.
"No" H takes the car keys out of my hands. "Put your office keys on your own key ring."
Problem here?---- I don't HAVE a key ring. I don't HAVE a car. Not sure how this fact escaped H...
S16 and I look at each other and then at H. "What key ring would that be?" I ask H.
Said he didn't know, but that he likes his auto-tran car, its HIS car.
(Cue maniacal laughter from the wife here... no, I didn't actually.)
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
