Okay, I tried to write a post with some of my sitch details last night and got really upset, cuz it all sounds so hopeless written down.

H and dated for about 2 years before we got married. 3 months after we met, we found out I was pregnant. We decided to move in together, and honestly, we've had serious problems since the beginning. When I met H, he was still overly involved with an ex who lived in Connecticut. That situation created huge amounts of turmoil, and I couldn't be detached in that case.
Anyway - he went to visit her in Connecticut, and well, he cheated while he was there (brief PA number one). We had a lot of problems with him lying to me and trying to hide things, adn me constantly snooping on him, breaking into his e-mail, accusing him of cheating, etc - even when he wasn't. Somehow in spite of all that, we got married last January. SURPRISE! That didn't solve any problems.

In June, he started a PA with a 19-year-old girl (he's 30), and moved out in August. Add to that mix a couple of hospitalizations for me because of clinical depressions.

So HAH - try and say there's hope for our F'd up R now.

I hate recounting my sitch to people .

Myrrh


One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.