Recently Separated and Need Help

[azguy]

You could be right that focusing TOO much on GAL may be counterproductive, especially, if in past conflicts this has been your way of dealing with it (finding something else to occupy you). I think it will take some more description of what has gone wrong for people here to offer more specific advice. However, some general guidance which is usually helpful is to look for things which have triggered conflicts in the past and make sure to work on doing the exact opposite from here on out (work on your 180's). If you've been controlling, try to look for opportunities to show him you trust his judgement . . . things along those lines.

Maybe to help, you could describe a specific recent conflict you had, and how you both dealt with it. Actual events are often easier to advise on than general attitudes.

And let me say from experience, that if you can afford it, the DB coaches can really help guide you better than these forum posts (no offense intended to other respondents ).