I am sure the convo about D was a huge hit to your emotions. I don't really think any of us are ready for that. (My H hasn't mentioned D yet, but I feel very strongly it will come up at some point in the not so distant future. And, when it does I will be devasted too.)
Let yourself feel these emotions. The only way to "the other side" is going through. It sux. It hurts. It's not fair. It isn't right. You don't deserve this. Yet it IS. Acceptance is very difficult. You will get there on your own time. We all will-whatever IT is.
You were NOT a bad wife, so don't beat yourself up. Forgive yourself. Take care of yourself. Your future will hold good things...you have to believe this.
Start focusing more on YOU. You are worth A LOT!!!!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.