Interesting evening. First "fight" we've had in a long time.
I will say, W is under a lot of stress. There's a number of things in play here and I understand her frustration....but it's all "external" stuff, so taking it out on the family is crap.
Start my day off by getting new paperwork from her attorney...asking all sorts of questions and wanting all our financials. Yay me! So I wasn't in a great mood myself really, and honestly, my work is pretty stressful right now too.
W comes home, makes some jokes, tells me more shitty news regarding her work and such. I mentioned the attorney papers and she bails to makes dinner. I worked out. When I finish, W is 4-5 beers in and dropping F bombs like they are going out of style. I'm pretty foul mouthed myself, but every 3rd word even seems excessive to me. I ask her to tone it down, she gets irate, but settles down.
Then S13 says something in jest about making a robot that would punch his mom in the face. I realize that sounds bad, but it really was in fun and she plays with them like that, so I didn't think anything of it. She did....and proceeded to flip out.
Eventually I dismissed the kids and then W decided she'd take it out on me. She said the most hateful things....ranging from D papers, to wanting me dead, to insinuating she screwed around on me. There was talk about how much of an @sshole I was for "10 years" and she went on and on about how I wouldn't stand for S13 to say such a thing about my "next girlfriend"...just dumb. At one point, I did tell her to shut up (I know...I blew a fuse for a split second), but after that, I just settled in and said "ok" to everything. She told me I wasn't a man, I was Mr. Passive now, etc, etc.
I realized after the "shut up" comment that she was pressing buttons....and moving quickly from one to the next to try to get a response. When she got none, she started throwing [censored]....broke my favorite cutting board...that's shitty.
I did try to defuse it multiple times before it got out of hand, but she wasn't having that. I even told her once that I thought all her work related stress was what this was about, but again, that didn't work. At one point she told me she didn't want anything from me but to be D'd and to give her what she wants. Her last ditch effort to piss me off was saying "don't get in 'my bed' tonight" to which I responded, "it's mine too." She said some other things after, which honestly, are making me consider the guest room.
Will be interesting to see how she reacts next week when she gets my settlement offer. I'm kinda hoping she signs it at this point. I want off the crazy train.
