sometimes I act "as if" our marriage is still intact- happy accommodating, sometimes I act "as if" I have moved on-vague, H is "good friend" who comes to babysit. I do feel crazy!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Same here. I am out of town and H just called to check in and see how I am and we had a perfectly normal conversation. I feel like screaming, "how can you act as if nothing is going on?!" I feel like I am going crazy too...
Me 47/H 47 M 19/T 21 S 11 S 11 BD #1: April 2012 H Moved out 11/2012 for 2 months BD #2: H "can't do this anymore" 3/14/2013
Just journaling...Can I say I hate this? I always tell my kids we don't say hate. I am so mad at H for behaving this way. What in God's name is he thinking? How does he deny D's request? She wants him home! Think this thing with OW is a train wreck. I know its fantasy! He knows its stupid, but he is too caught up in the romance to see straight. Keep thinking eventually he will say to me God, that I was a saint for waiting for his sorry ass! I love my H. flaws and all. I can forgive him. I already took him back, said to him just help me heal. Be that salve for me wound. I am ready to make a better marriage. leave that old one behind. But, he wants no part of communicating his feelings, emotions. Too hard for him to look inside. he'd rather just cut ties. take what he thinks is easy way out. I know I deserve happiness. I know what my H is about and still love him. Sure would I like him to be more involved in family and community and less self involved? Sure I would. But I knew he was selfish the day I married him. I accepted that. I know I am a fabulous person and someone should be over the moon for me. I want it to be my H! Thanks for letting me type fast! I happen to be taking a typing course right now which really should be practicing so I can get a job instead of DB'ING!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
saw my new therapist today. I like her. trying to come to terms with tough love. wish I would have had 2 hrs instead of 1. don't have time for all of this!!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
How do you guys handle when you know your spouse is with the"other". My h is in the city where ow lives for work. I'm home getting the kids dinner, hw, laundry. He doing who knows what... Keep telling myself to thought stop! Can't control what he does. Just makes me a little crazy!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Apologies... Posting under different headlines... Ok, I'll keep my posts in one place and go from here. Keep telling myself to move on. Begin my life over without him. I deserve to be loved and appreciated. I get the prize which is my kids! He sends texts messages to D on my phone. I'm ready to ask him to stop. If he wants to talk to her, he can call on house phone. Thus far I have been accommodating about his time with kids. We have no schedule.
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
Everything you are saying is a normal reaction, don't be too hard on yourself. I also wouldn't try to control how your husband contacts your daughter, let them have their relationship.I want you to know that the DB coaches are wonderful in helping you come up with a specific plan to stay on track. Even if you are working with someone, the solution based focus you learn in coaching, can help in all areas of your life. There is a $30 discount on telephone coaching this week. Take care.
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Help me to remember why I am not supposed to ask about OW. He is there now. That thing has been going on a year now. Jealousy is such a terrible thing. I tell myself to thought stop. I can't get it thru my thick head! I know detach!!
M48 H50 M21 T26 S20 at college),S17,D15-cp, dev. delay- cogniv 5yrs old PA confirmed 7/2012 H separates 9/2012 H move home 2/13& 7/13 lasted 2weeks.ILYNILWY OW still in picture. h filed 10/13
