Time flies

[mishka422]

Ok, allow me to explain a little. I'm seriously not being a downer. There are just times that things become more clear than ever before.

1)No one likes a wimp. Unless you are bleeding profusely, fainting, or throwing up constantly to the point of exhaustion there is no reason to advise anyone of pain or illness. No one needs to know.

There isn't a reason to mention pains. I have them pretty much 24/7 and any mention of a pain brings eye rolling and complaints that I'm 'always' hurting somewhere. The next phrase....'when are you ever well?' Since this is one of the things that I feel led to the bomb, there will not be any mention again unless any of those drastic things is happening. Sucking it up isn't going to cost me much.


2)When you are told to do what you need to do.....that NEVER means they actually want you to do it.

The convo goes: Me:I'm out of money until the middle of the month but we need groceries. Him: Use money from my account and go. I carefully make a menu for the week, pull as many coupons as I can find for what is on the list, go get the groceries and then get a phone call giving me grief for the amount the groceries cost. Gees, give me a break! I spent less than normal, got a full week of good, healthy food, and still I'm getting crap for it. Ok then....ramen nightly it is. I still have enough left to buy enough of that to feed a small army since it's basically 10 cents per metric ton!

3)No matter how often you express your feelings to someone, if they aren't returned in some manner you are wasting your time and energy.

It's not worth expending precious energy expressing yourself over and over expecting (there is that nasty word) to get a different result. It kind of goes back to that insanity thing.

4)There are few people in the world who will care about you. YOU need to be the one constant in your own life who will care about you. Don't ever expect anyone else to. If it occurs, it's just a bonus.

I had forgotten about the zero expectations rule. Simple. Stop expecting anything from other people. That sets them up for failure in your eyes and you for disappointment.

5)Make a plan with flexibility built in, that way when it inevitably gets messed up you won't be so stressed about it. You have another direction to head.

What was wrong with this? It's a smart way to plan. Always have a backup in case of failure and in my case, most roads lead to failure so a second plan is a good plan!