Letting Go & Moving Forward

[littleGTO]

Thanks, ad, your comment about what I might have said was good. Too bad I was so reactive/emotional at the time. I rarely speak to him before really thinking about how i want to say something and if I don't think it is helpful to "us" then I say nothing.

I do try to validate what he says at times, but we haven't had any "real" conversations since Feb. (only one then).

ruby, I think you are exactly right about doing this in our own time. I hope when/if D happens that I really will be "okay" and moving on with my life. Right now I'm "acting as if" at times and doing the "whole fake it till you make it attitude."

BF, thanks for your perspective. It is always comforting to know someone is going through something similar. I do agree that this EA is in a fantasy world. For whatever reason I feel like my H is obsessed with this OW & maybe doesn't want to move out of this EA for fear it won't live up to his imaginative expectations of this perfectly happy life in fairy tale land!

Thanks for the support! Been doing a lot of reading lately and haven't commented on many posts as I don't feel like I'm in an advice sort of place. But, I'm keeping up with all your threads!