Lyreal - I have been in the same boat. H has been in and out since August. I finally just quit telling them anything about us a few months back. It was very hurtful to my parents to not know what's going on, but I need to do what's right for me.
Before all of this happened I really thought an A would be the deal breaker in our marriage. MIraculously I still feel it's worth saving and have gone on to make positive changes in myself. Like your H, mine wants to be home and that is very positive IMO. If he's not ready, don't push. My H came home under pressure from me the first time and it blew up in both of our faces. DB and DR and this board have been wonderful sources of inspiration. WElcome! P
