Recently Separated and Need Help

[azguy]

Yes, that makes sense. In fact your description sounds like you have a good grasp of the DB approach. Get out there and GAL.

It's almost a given that your emotions will be all over the place right now. If you can detach from them (I always think of taking a step outside myself as I get upset or down, and just taking note: "Here comes the anxiety again" or something similar) that will help you better be able to see the best way forward.

The reason I asked was this statement (this is going to sound preachy):
"My H wouldn't even look at me. Didn't say a word. I walked in there looking really good (if I do say so myself) and he looked pretty rough. I couldn't help but smile to myself."

I don't know the context for this, so I may be misinterpreting, but this wasn't a contest. I hope you come through this with confidence in yourself; it's important for your well being. This does not need to come at the expense of your H being down. Without guessing what he is thinking (a typical trap in this situation) you can wish him well as a starting point for healing the wounds.