I am really sorry about your recent turn of events. He sounds very sad and confused. I suppose he just wants to get out and away, thinking that that will improve things and make him feel better. I think we all recognise that feeling. I just wonder if you let him taste real freedom/ aloneness it may not be that palatable. I have the feeling that you are always there for him if he needs you. I have no idea what I would do in your situation but I think deep down you know what the right thing to do is and you just need to follow your instincts and not be governed by fear of what might happen.
Why does he think he is going to die? Did his own father die at 60-65? Has something happened that has made him muse on his own mortality? Hang on in there, don't facilitate the divorce and perhaps even absent yourself a little, be a little mysterious, don't talk to mutual friends about your situation or try and get information from them. No one wants to be moved on from no matter how much they want to move on.
Thinking of you and following you every step. Please feel free to ignore all this advice. My situation improved dramatically when I began to laugh, have fun, be fun to be with, stopped checking up on DH and GAL. But most importantly learning to laugh and smile again and not be too serious or uptight. Act as if you are discovering your DH for the first time again. Make a real effort. Harder said than done and I still find myself frowning if I don't concentrate on having an inane grin across my face!!
Me 49y H 52y T23 y M17 y ??EA June 2012 with younger co-worker children 8-12
