Soooooo, Back again for Advice!!!

[Just A Guy]

Hey Mr Bond, thanks for the wise words... Living in the past will never move us forward...

A.S. Glad to be back on MUCH better grounds than before.. I know that no matter what happens with me and STBX I am in a great place... If you had asked me 6 months ago if I would be okay I would have said "Not until I get her back". No I know I am a catch, I have women telling me this all the time now. W now sees this and is re-thinking her decision. I do NOT think she wants to go through with the D.

However my IC told me I should very gently confront her about her "I am mad at you for not changing till I left". He and I both know that this is simply not true especially since I owned up to my mistakes and started making changes as soon as I joined this site! He said since I used to be spineless with her standing up for my feelings now is an important step in my growth even though she might not like what she hears.

He also said he would be willing to see both of us if she agreed to come willingly.

MRtwopointfour I will tell you right now DETACH AND MOVE ON WITH BETTERING YOURSELF... I thought I was doing it, boy was I wrong. Then one day I just decided to go out and talk to new people, make new friends and allow myself to have fun. Once I did that it was all downhill.. I punished myself a LOT for my mistakes.. Forgive yourself, forgive your W and let go of the rope, GOD it feels GREAT to be free again!