First Post--2d troubled marriage

[2X Divorcee?]

So, I think my DBing has been Ok since I've been here before. At BD, I let her know she was hurting me and went pretty dark for a few weeks. No calls or texts really for about a month. We really have no harsh words or accusations. No begging, no pleading. I did send her an "I miss you card" before the BD when I knew something was not right.

Right at the end of that "no comm" month, she put divorce papers in the mail.

On my log, it was just before those papers arrived that I got on the phone with a DB coach and she recommended I open up some comms as long as I could keep them bright and positive. I've been doing that. Early on, the comms got noticed that something had changed. Now, i think it's annoying her. Maybe that's a good thing(?). But she participates in the small talks. On a couple of occasions, my call (1 a day at most), she follows up with a text or email to check on my mom and dad (Dad in the hospital recently) and a check on the Divorce Papers.

Today, I got the same thing...and a recommendation to read the book "Decoupling". That title echos some of her comments about her perception that I need to let go and heal (hense her rush to D since the sooner the better for my healing???)

Next post is what she has said about "why D?"