we own a biz - pt 5

[makingmagic]

Tx Tally... when I read "other" threads, I understand and see things better... when it comes to my own, somehow I cannot. I think its finally sinking in about your approach. I just need to put it into practice. Thank you for sticking by me.

As read on another thread from AS (he was like me):

//Oh man, well for sure I would take back the begging/ pleading/ negotiating/ crying. //... Thank gawd I have stopped this!


//The other thing I would change is learning to STHU and just listen and validate//.... I believe I have started to do this with H. It has been exactly one week since I have had that last R talk. I want to listen more! I cannot hear what he is saying, if I am talking!

//I eventually figured that out (with the help of DR, these forums and RetroV), but it took months and months to get there and in the meantime I spent WAY too much time talking and not nearly enough listening which for me was "more of the same" behavior because that's what I did throughout the M.// ... me 2, THIS is what I want to change in ME (one area), I want to be more of a listener. Being a listener, is to ask questions.

//And I spent way too much time trying to fix my M and fix my W. I worked on fixing me too and I certainly don't regret that part, but I was trying to fix EVERYTHING and not recognizing that W and the M were outside of my control.// ... I already know that my H is outside of my control.