And I only say that, because when you feel "attacked" ie. someone suggests you could do something different, you justify it.

ALL OF US HAVE BEEN WHERE YOU ARE!! We have done the things you have. None of us are judging you. We honestly want to help, but we aren't the sugar coating variety. There were plenty of "ata girls!" But all you see are the "but you could do's..."

M: 9 yrs
T: 13 yrs
H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months
Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs
Dbing 12/12
S 1/13
7/13 H moved back in basement.
8/13 #3 born
10/13 still cheating
10/13 He moves across country, I file for D