we own a biz - pt 5

[MrBond]

"can I not have some credit for recognizing what needs to be done, and am working on it?"

Of course you get credit. AND people have been giving your credit for it. However, you put them off when you question them giving your credit for an action that YOU don't think is positive.

That's probably how it was in your relationship. Your H probably gave you positives and pluses, however because you didn't think they were positives TO YOU, you probably missed them.

"I am turning people off for my "QUESTIONS"... but, if they don't like it, they don't have to read it or answer me"

That's why some people have left your post, but you keep popping up and asking questions about yourself on other people's threads. They have their own issues to deal with.

"You may also be correct MrBond that i am seeking validation, never saw that I might be blaming H for it"

You've been doing that since you got here. That just seems to be your personality and there's nothing wrong with that. But you were blaming your H for that part of you and I don't think it was justified.