can I not have some credit for recognizing what needs to be done, and am working on it? I feel that the 180's I could be changing are things within me... for example not walking on eggshells .... which is why I posted... to see where MY mistakes were, not that I was focusing on him in the convo. But to see MY mistakes & learn from it.

I agree with you Tally, AS & mrBond... I am turning people off for my "QUESTIONS"... but, if they don't like it, they don't have to read it or answer me. I'm going to be OK with that (180 from a people pleaser). For those of you who perserve. with me.. Thank you. You may also be correct MrBond that i am seeking validation, never saw that I might be blaming H for it... will think about that.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)