Let yourself cry and scream if you want to. I am sure I am not the only one who has cried more in the past eight months than in my whole life. This hurts. And no you were not the worst wife ever - that is your pain talking. Go back on your own thread. There are two of you in that marriage. But I know how you feel. I am the queen of beating myself up. Forgiving ourselves is just as hard if not harder than forgiving them.
About the D. I am assuming this is not something that you want right now. I believe some of the advice given is then do not help the D along. Let him do the work. I personally would not go through one without a lawyer but you know your situation best. Bright, one thing I would suggest for you to do is to read other threads and find someone who was or is in a similar position. Ask for their input. Many have gone through this. D was not an issue in my sitch and I do not want to steer you wrong.
