Time to roll up the sleeves

[adinva]

I don't see where that was a fail at all, mr2.4. How do you see it as a fail?

The goal here is for you to do something, not for you to manipulate some kind of specific response out of her. So if her answer was in a snappish tone, perhaps you might adjust your approach and say something more open ended.

The question, "you okay?" is never asked of someone who looks obviously happy. So it is really more of a judgment of how she appears to you than it is a mission of connecting with her and listening. So, try next time with something that doesn't imply you've already read her mind and found it cloudy. Try, what's new, what's up, what's happening today, or how's your day. None of those comes with an assumed answer.

If her answer is that she is having a lousy day, then you have an opportunity to show that (1) that doesn't change your kind of a day at all, you're having a quite pleasant day still and (2) you care enough to listen and demonstrate an understanding that she's feeling some feelings about her day.

Success = you tried, and reported back here. Try modifying the question next time. See how it goes. Use the opportunity to just hear what she wants to say, whatever it is. If it's negative, that doesn't mean a failure on your part. It's only a failure if you backslide with it by bickering, getting upset, or otherwise pushing her away from you.